Remorse and the Human Spark
Feeling bad might not be as bad as you think.
When a person feels bad about something he has done to another person or even something he has done against himself, like not following through with a commitment, it might not be a feeling that one should regret. It might not be a bad thing at all.
Although It's difficult to accept that a negative feeling such as regret, or remorse is a good thing, in truth, it may be a very valuable emotion.
Remorse enlightens one's mind and creates an awareness in a person that can motivate real and positive change. It is very powerful and effective when it comes to policing our moral behavior. Feeling remorseful is very important in a human being because it encourages our moral compasses to do something better. Behavioral change starts with a remorseful feeling; a strong feeling inside of you that tells you that you have done something the way you were not supposed to or said something you were not supposed to say.
Not feeling bad is far worse. Feeling bad about something is actually part of the process of becoming better, but too often when we feel bad, we get down on ourselves, and in some cases that even leads to depression and medication which is very prevalent today. Letting a remorseful feeling get you down can be very hurtful to your mind and your emotions. You may find yourself feeling worthless, anxious, and too bad to even exist!! Sadly, many people haven't yet recognized the goodness in remorse.
I have heard of cases where some people committed suicide out of guilt about something wrong that they have done in their lives or other people's lives. You should not try to punish yourself just because you did something bad to someone, and now you are feeling guilty about it. This only shows that you are human, with honest emotions; ideally, you should be happy about this. That feeling of remorse is a conviction of the soul within. Don't point a finger at yourself for doing something bad, rather simply recognize and acknowledge the way you behaved and strive to become better. Relax, and know that you are not feeling remorseful because you are bad and unkind, but because you are human and have a spark of humanity alive within you. Remorse is a good thing; if you look at it that way, it can motivate you to make positive changes. Only good things!
